If nothing else Woman’s Day is worth a moment of reflection… what do you think??

Reply to this blog with your opinion and you stand to win a high tea for you and your friend or any special woman in your life (this competition is open to men, because when we respect both genders the world is a better place).

Meg Fargher, owner of Budmarsh Country Lodge

A rather poorly read critic visited our lodge last year and complained that the reading material was rather heavy. For those who find Giles comics heavy this may be so - or perhaps it was the research work on FOSATU, written by a wonderful woman, that caught her eye. I doubt the lovely book of SASOL Birds donated by the delightful and ebullient Kate Turkington could be called “heavy”. Perhaps she was referring to the "heavy" Roberts Bird Book.  In any event, this blog may exact the same criticism so if you are not in a thinking mood, read no further.

If nothing else Woman’s Day is worth a moment of reflection… what do you think?

I recently sent my bank manager a request to complete a banking transaction on my behalf. It required her input. The transaction was from my account. For the record, I am a woman. For the record, my lovely and efficient banker is a woman. She confirmed she would complete the request but replied via email to my husband who, for the record, is a man!  So often women make assumptions about women and get in the way of other women’s success. What is it with us women? And why did my banker assume she should alert my husband to transactions from my bank account? For the record, and to his credit, he took umbrage and alerted our bank manager to her rather gendered gaffe.

Comment on this blog and you could win a high tea for two!

In spite of progress, there are still dreadful abuses against women. It is alleged that there are currently millions of women around the world in some form of slavery and countless numbers are trafficked each year. Annually, tens of thousands of women are murdered in honour killings. Women bear the burdens of wars most often created by men - there is not equality between the genders but in many countries there is an attempt to redress the inequality - it is after all one of the tenets of the Declaration of Human Rights that there is equality between men and women. Part of Article 2 Of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights states that: Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status.

Bearing all the above comments in mind, as we celebrate Woman’s Month, I challenge liberated women to be mindful of other women and to be enablers of other women’s progress. In a meeting last month, a colleague of mine was saddened to see that a man was promoted above a woman of equal if not better capabilities because a previous incumbent, a woman, had been poor in the position. That she was not good in her job was not ascribed to her personality but rather to her gender, and so it was decided that her successor must be a man! When men fail in their jobs we don’t hear the blame being laid at the door of gender; we lay the blame of failure where it belongs: the failure of ability; the failure of character; the failure to work hard. When a woman fails it is often ascribed to the fact that she is a woman!  When a woman loses her temper it is rarely because she has the right to be angry. Instead, the blame is laid at the door of hormones. When a man loses his temper, it is often simply because he is exerting his authority…

All women and men who can, should fight for women everywhere to have options and choices in their lives. These include choices about marriage and childbirth; choices about their belief system and choices that allow them to live better lives. Where we think we have made huge progress, it is in those spaces that strong women must now stand up for other women. Women in positions that allow them to be change agents should avoid protecting their own success by putting other women down; rather women should be striving to build up other women so that the fabric of our society gets stronger and healthier and better.

Budmarsh salutes all women who try to make the world a kinder, better, safer place.

The competition closes on 31 August 2012 and the winner announced during September.

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